Common behavioral problems in childhood  easy solution

anger, anxiety, sadness childhood
Behavior is a word that describes how does a child acts or reacts towards any person or any situation. Since childhood, we grew up looking and observing how our elders are reacting or we can say behaving. The most common behavioral problems in childhood develop by observing people around us not by being told or being taught.
In today's world, we see a lot of differences in our children's behavior compared to our own behavior when we were kids. Actually where this difference has come from?
Well, there are so many factors behind it. We as parents have changed a lot but we expect our kids to be the same as we were long ago as kids. How is it possible?

Here are easy solutions to the very common behavioral problems in childhood like —

  • Anger
  • Anxiety
  • Back-answering and mocking
  • Screen addiction
  • Laziness

1. Anger:

This is one of the very common problems in almost every child. Before thinking about our child let us think when do we get angry most of the time.
  • When people around us do not meet our expectations.
  • When we do not get the freedom to do whatever we want.
  • When we are hungry or tired.

I guess these are the main issues due to which children also get angry. So during such a situation handle the angry child with these solutions.


                   anger in childhood, avoid attention
The easy solution for anger in childhood: 
  • Avoid attention — The moment your kid is in anger try to avoid the situation by getting away from the kid for 1-2 minutes instead of staring and keep on shouting at him. Raising voice all the time can place a negative image of you inside his/her mind. Leave him for some time to let the energy level lower down.
  • A cozy hug and love after some time — After 5-10 minutes when you feel that the kid is now in a state of talking and understanding then go to him and give a cozy hug with love and move your hand on his/her spinal cord. This is scientifically proven that moving your hand on the spinal cord of the child relaxes the brain. 
  • Deal with the utmost compassion — Have an open conversation with him, respect his emotions and feelings. Don't show your bossism, do not be too instructional. Once you win his confidence, inspire him with common examples, stories, or videos. 
  • Avoid emotional or physical punishment — Remember the child or his anger is not wrong, only his way of expressing that emotion is wrong. So never abuse him, never shout, never threaten him for sending away to a hostel or cutting his pocket money, etc.
  • Take care of his basic needs — Generally, a child has a behavior of anger due to hunger or lack of sleep so try to fill his stomach with a glass of milk or some fruits immediately you feel he is not feeling happy and give him a good sleep to keep his mind relaxed all the time.

2. Anxiety:

Anxiety in childhood is a feeling of worry or restlessness which results in headache, fear, muscle tension, lack of concentration, and lack of sleep.
                   anxiety in childhood, loneliness

The easy solution for anxiety in childhood: 

    • Observe the atmosphere in the family — Sometimes we do not realize discussions going on in the family, for example, someone's death, any violent video on the TV channel, a heated argument amongst parents. So please try to see how your kid is reacting to such things. If he is not able to take them lightly then try to avoid such things in front of him.
    • Interpersonal relationship of parents — When parents do not create harmony in their relationship, then knowingly or unknowingly kids acquire those feelings of lacking love from parents, loneliness, & unnecessary thought process. So try to create harmony in your relationship to give your child a better future. Try to understand each other and respect each other's quality instead of pointing out the mistakes all the time.
    • Mind relaxation techniques —To avoid anxiety in kids help them with regular yoga and exercises to make ease in mind and body. Meditation is a wonderful way to calm your child's mind. Take him for a walk early morning, being closer to nature helps a lot to overcome anxiety in kids.

    3. Back-answering and mocking:

    Almost every parent finds trouble dealing with these bad habits of their child. Back answering and mocking make the child rude and indisciplined.

    The easy solution for back-answering and mocking in childhood: 

    • Guidance Children need guidance, guide them but do not insult them in front of others. Find the appropriate time and place to talk to your child whenever you feel he is back answering or mocking to someone.
    • Patience You have to be patient as you may have to repeat the same thing thousands of times. A child may take time to understand but once he learns it remains in his mind throughout his life.
    • Avoid negative words for him Being naughty and mischievous are natural for children. When the child behaves improperly, show him that this behavior is not acceptable. If he is a grown-up then explain to him why he should not behave like that. It will help him to mend his behavior. Using negative words for him will set an image of those words in his mind impacting his self-confidence. 

    4. Screen addiction:

    Modern generation kids are becoming screen-agers before becoming teen-agers. Although these gadgets have become a necessity in today's lifestyle, we can not take our kids away from them but there should be a strict time limit for using them. Excessive screen time affecting their mental and physical health slowly resulting in weak body and mind.
                  Too much screen time in kids

      The easy solution for the screen addiction in childhood: 
      • Become a role model for them — Before ordering them to lower down their gadget usage just check out how much unnecessary screen time do you have in front of your kids. Try to be a gadget-free human being in front of your kids and show them there is a world beyond this as well. Do your chattings, Instagram-posts, Facebook-posts when kids are sleeping or in the school. This way you will automatically set an example in front of your kids.
      • Get involved in their cartoons, games, rhymes to set up a good image —When we stop them watching their favorite cartoons, or playing an interesting game in the middle they look at us as their enemy, so do not just switch off and start shouting, spend just 1 minute to see what they are watching or playing then slowly start discussing to show your interest and then give them a count down to stop it as soon as possible. Giving a count down warning help them to find a good stopping place which is very less frustrating for them.
      • Narrate stories very frequently — Do not depend only on bedtime stories, try to keep on telling long stories related to anything in the house around you like the invention of the fan, how a TV works, how mobile is able to send messages, which food comes from which place, how packaged food gets prepared in the factories, how chocolates are being made, etc. to involve your child into your words so much that he will not get attracted towards TV or mobile. The only hard work here is that you need a little homework every night to get ready for the next day.
      • Make lunch and dinner time a discussion time instead of screen time  —When they will keep on listening to stories all day they will ask questions, so make lunch and dinner time a discussion time to clear their doubts. Ask puzzles, tell jokes during this time. This way definitely they will feel less attracted to gadgets.

      5. Laziness:

      Laziness is actually a state of confusion as well or we can say lack of interest in certain things. When a child is confused about starting a work like how to write a paragraph, how to draw a beautiful picture etc. then he just tries to get away and does nothing, which we name as laziness.
                         laziness in childhood
      The easy solution for laziness in childhood: 

      • Make your expectations very clear to them — Whatever you expect out of them, make it very clear even it is a very small task. Whenever the children are unsure of what they are supposed to do they show laziness in performing that task.
      • Establish a close connection with them — Instruct them being face-to-face, things directed from a long-distance are very less likely remembered and understood.
      • Let them make their own decisions — As the child starts growing up, let him make his own schedule for things like homework, play, extra activities, etc. Give them a structured instruction like  — "At what time would you like to study? which subject would you like to study first Maths or English?" To make the child more confident and good decision-maker in the future.
      • Use of timer — For every task, there should be a timer to help them think quickly and respond quickly to things. If you have two children at home make a competition like who will keep these books on the shelf first or who will bring me a glass of water etc. For a single child, use timer or countdowns like how much you can write in 2 minutes, come-on show me your jet speed, you are so fast let me see your speed, and just look at the energy suddenly filing your child with enthusiasm.
      So these were "common behavioral problems in childhood with easy solutions." We hope these solutions will help you out to handle your kids nicely and to make your kids a wonderful human being in the future.

      Please let us know in the comments below which problem in your child bothers you a lot and how are you handling it. Also please share this post with your friends to help them as well.

      Happy parenting,
      Team inspiration




      5 Comments

      1. It's a very good compilation of mental issues ..... I thought mental care is the major care of the child upbringing......

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        1. yes very true...we should always be aware of even a small mental issue in a child.

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      2. Very nice article... Really helpful to handle modern kids..

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